Should Have Lied...continuation

Sorry for the delay. When it comes to dating, it is very important to compromise. In my experience, I find that if one doesn't care to go to a specific place to meet up, providing additional options is a way to go. Choosing a place that both parties will feel comfortable can take time and if all fails, a public place with benches will work. In this case, the only option this man could come up with was "coming to his house to watch a movie." Really...shit, I can do that at my own house! I didn't say that to him but I wanted to with all my heart. In the end, I just ignored him and didn't reply back to his message. Not even when he texted "no reply ok" did I respond. At that point, I sighed in defeat. When I mentioned earlier that dating can burn someone out, it's no joke. Like I'm literally exhausted.

I just didn't have the energy to go back and forth with this guy who I thought was all about himself. It was pointless to explain to this older man why I was bothered by his suggestion. I thought it was going to be the end of the communication until he sent me a text stating that I was rude. That...I couldn't let go. To say that I was surprised would not have been accurate. This guy's ego couldn't just leave things alone. As much as I wanted to cuss him out for his audacity, he wasn't worth it. I sent him a message stating that "I don't think that you were worth a response back. Let's be civil. It’s not that deep." That to me said it all. He was not going to get any more of my time and energy. After a couple of minutes, I blocked him. There was no reason to speak to this man again. Speaking to him on the phone was a trying experience. A red flag that should've been heeded in the beginning but I wanted to give it a real chance before I eliminated him as a potential. Inviting me to his house was the ultimate turn off, considering that I had met him two days prior.

What happened to dinner?? It went from him offering dinner to saying no to a cup of tea or coffee to inviting me to his house. Was offering me a "free" meal the ultimate goal to getting into my pants? Or was it a foolproof way to obtaining my phone number? Who knows! I gave him a chance when he coughed up his weed smoke and another when he made no sense during a phone conversation about deal breakers. Basically, this guy felt the woman that he had been getting to know before me was wrong about her personal preferences when it came to smoking habits. People in general are entitled to what they don't want to deal with when it comes to dating someone. Especially, when they will be around that individual for long periods of time. At the time of the conversation, I had been giving him a different point of view but he wasn't open to it at all.

Even when he didn't like my option, I would have met him at a public place of his choosing. Providing that it was a safe environment for me. At this point, I was all out of chances. To be frank, I didn't care if we went to a restaurant. Sitting somewhere in a public place face to face conversing about numerous topics was something I genuinely wanted to do. After this situation, I was reminded not to ignore my internal alarms. A woman knows when something will not work out. We know! We tell ourselves to give it a shot because "you just never know" and sometimes it works. The sad thing is when it doesn't, it blows up in our faces and by that time it's too late.

If something is funky and not in sync, don't ignore it. Based on a phone conversation with this guy, I knew that we were not aligned. I just wanted to make sure that it wasn't me and boy was I sure after our interaction.

This could have been avoided if I'd lied and said that I was in a relationship. Lesson learned. Lol. The truth of the matter is that, I gave it a go and it failed to launch. Even though I felt that lying would have prevented this situation, I don't take the lesson(s) learned for granted. It is what it is. Ladies and Gents, please be safe out there. Know your worth and don't compromise if it compromises your values and standards.

If you have any stories like this or an experience, I would looooove to hear about it. Please post below in the comment section. No judgments and negativity here. We are individuals that want to be loved and respected.